Friday, August 14, 2009

Our Love Affair With Fatness

[Note: This post gets a little personal. If you're a male person, be forewarned. Considering that most of my readers are female, I think you'll understand.]

There's something about fat that makes us feel comfortable.

Yes, we hate how our body looks and the fact that our jeans are a tad too tight. Most of us cringe at the thought of wearing a swimsuit in public. We say we want to lose 20 or 30 pounds--next week, or month, or year, when things "settle down" and we have more time. We all like the idea of being thin and trim.

But when it comes down to it, most of us are okay with having a little (or a lot!) extra weight, and I think it's safe to say that many people actually LIKE being fat. Once you have that extra fat, and I'm talking excess fat (like the spare tire around the belly), it settles in, makes itself cozy, and like an unwanted house guest, won't leave because you've made it too comfortable.

For women, this subject gets a little touchy, especially when it comes to womanly parts. Like the hips and the chest area. I have heard some women say, "Yah, it would be nice to lose weight, but I'm afraid if I do, I'll lose my ______(insert womanly part, such as hips or chest)." A shame, in my opinion, to put your health at risk because you're afraid if you lose the 20 pounds you need to in order to achieve a healthy weight, you'll also go from a C-cup to a AA (this concern is largely unfounded, btw, unless you become extremely thin, although I'd take a flat chest and healthy, lean body over a buxom overweight body any day).

On a personal note, I inherited the hips and lower-body curves of my pear-shaped grandmother, and there's no amount of exercise or weight loss that will change this fact. My hips are much smaller than they were in my pre-vegan days, but they are hippy hips nonetheless, and nothing short of plastic surgery is going to change their predisposition to curviness.

Further, I'm not well-endowed in the upper body area, never have been, never will be. "Just put some meat on ya, and you'll get bigger [cup size]," I've been told. Nope, not true at all, at least for me. My genes dictate to my body that all excess fat MUST go to the hips/buns/thigh area of the body. No amount of weight gain will change the fact that I really don't (even when nursing!) need to wear a bra.

Yes, a certain amount of fat is needed to "pad" the body. But much less than I think we realize.

I went to South America for four months some years ago. The natives down there were much smaller. Not only in terms of height, but in build and weight. I do not recall having ever seen an obese person. When I came back to the U.S., I was completely blown away by the fatness that is America. I remember shopping at Wal-mart just shortly after my return to the U.S. and being shocked to see such morbidly obese people. I was appalled to see these four hundred pound ladies, pushing carts full of Doritos and frozen pizzas to the check-out stand. A stark contrast to my experience in South America.

I think a lot of people in the United States stay fat because we can. We don't lose the weight we need to because we are attached to our fat. Somehow, we get used to looking at ourselves in the mirror as fat people and we think, "This is who I am." And being fat now doesn't carry the social stigma that it once has, because nearly everyone (especially if you're over 40) is carrying around some extra weight.

What to do about this problem?

Doctor John McDougall, has said, "The fat you eat is soon will be the fat you wear." Fatty, empty-calorie foods, are the number one culprit to our fatness. It's much easier for your body to store fat as fat than it is for your body to store carbohydrates converted into fat.

One Florida doctor, Dr. Jason Newsom, the head of the Bay County Health Department, decided to confront the issue head-on. Part of his attack involved posting electronic messages outside the county health building such as "Sweet Tea=Liquid Sugar.", "Hamburger=Spare Tire.", and "French Fries=Thunder Thighs." Eventually his brash methods cost him his job and was fired. People were upset and threatened lawsuits.

Really, why are people so upset? Again, I think people are comfortable with their fatness and they don't like anything that might disturb it. It's as if Dr. Newsom, by saying, "Doughnuts=Diabetes" he is issuing a diabolical personal insult of the worst kind. "French Fries=Thunder Thighs"--I suppose this hits too close to home and people don't appreciate it. Well, people need to lighten up. If they don't like what they hear, they don't have to listen to it.

We need more people like Dr. Newsom who are willing to rock our proverbial boats, and get us to become uncomfortable with the fat we eat, and the fat we wear.

Like all love affairs, our love affair with fatness cannot last forever. When it ends, all we will be left with is poor health and faint memories of a good time.

11 comments:

  1. Newsom shot himself in the foot legally when he used the similar wording of the dunkin donuts slogan, and even worse when he mentioned the company by name! Liable and trademark infringement anyone? And worse,it was with two ATTORNEYS who not only oversee his job but own a Dunkin? Man, for a smart guy, that was pretty dumb. Too bad message got lost, because "donuts=diabetes" is AWESOME!

    LOL - Speaking of Walmarts and obese shoppers, I once saw a couple shopping in his-n-her rascals! Darwinism at its worst... had they had to "work" for their meal, at their size they would have died from starvation.
    Innovation = 1 / healthy living = 0

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  2. Melissa: Yah, there should have been some legal forsight when he started using brand names. Not a good idea.

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  3. I once wondered how people could let themselves get so big, but like a frog in a pot of water on the stove, I realized it is the slow onset that is the culprit.

    And you know, even with all my dietary education, it never really occurred to me how much fat we add to our diets (butter, oils, etc) until your blog.

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  4. Ok, I'm obviously no expert but I have to somewhat disagree. I don't know if it should be called a love affair with fatness. I do agree with you that people perhaps become comfortable with it AND they realize that getting rid of it is a lot more work than it was getting it but I don't agree that being comfortable and loving it are one in the same. Does that make sense? I think they love the things that make them fat more than they love being fat. Big difference.

    I would dare bet that if you were to ask anyone overweight, obese or morbidly obese if they would like to lose their fat they would say yes.

    In addition to eating a more balanced and moderated diet, I think people of other countries are also so much more active than Americans. They walk most places or bike on a daily occurrence.

    And with Dr. McDougall's comment about the fat we eat is the fat we wear I just say to myself, "Better make it a really yummy delicious fat then!!" :) No use wasting the limited fat on something average. Ha ha.

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  5. Abby: My main point is not that we love how we look/feel when we're fat, but rather, like a twisted love affair, we have found ourselves entatangled in an complex unhealthy relationship with food--with a way of eating that makes us fat--and don't necessarily know or want to get out. Further, we might not like certain aspects of being fat (for example, how we look being most common), but it's not enough to change our ways. Some people have also become so accostomed to being and looking a certain way, that yes they would like to lose weight in theory, they just can't imagine being a thinner person and in some cases, see themself as a "fat" person. Some people hide behind their weight, others use it as excuse to not live their lives fully, while others associate who they "are" with a an overweight body. I hope I'm making sense. I just want to make it clear that it's not necessarily a black and white issue. I'm making the case that while many, even most people hate certain aspects of being fat, they are actually quite comfortable with it and the lifestyle associated with it. It is this comfort level with being overweight that I'm addressing here.

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  6. Melissa: It's tricky because the more overweight a person becomes, the less they are inclined to move and it becomes a vicious cycle, one that lends itself to more weight gain.

    You're right, so many empty calories are added to our meals via added fats, added fats that we don't need. The worst kinds are found in fast foods, so simply cutting back on fast food consumption would do wonders for a lot of people...

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  7. It's funny how you mention the people in their motorized wheel chairs scooting around Wal-Mart buying junk food. I worked at a little grocery store and I was appalled by the families that bought baskets full of junk food for their children.

    I notice a lot of childhood obesity as well, and like looking in a mirror, their parents are obese too.

    It's so sad.

    Newson: He told the truth, and people only believe what they want to. So sad.

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  9. I think people are uninformed (whether it be because of a huge government conspiracy or their lack of desire to pick up a book, I don't know, but we are responsible for ourselves, the government is not) and unwilling to the work required to be healthy. I use myself as an example, but as I have been learning LIFE IS WORK. People will be unhappy if they don't put in the work. Work is necessary in school, careers, health, relationships. People seem to think everything should just be handed to them and they'll be happy, but that is not how it works. I have an uncle who is well over 400 lbs, probably closer to 600. He was trying to get on the biggest loser, but won't try to improve his health at home, which he could - slowly, but surely - won't change his eating habits, and when offered a chance to interview for the part wouldn't make the trip, because it was "too short notice:" even thought his boss was aware of the situation. People just come up with excuses. I do it myself we all do and so when people like Newsom or Jenae make comments about it when get all up in arms. The truth hurts sometimes, but it's time to move on and improve our lives...

    wow, totally sorry for spazzing out. I've been thinking about this all morning - not just in regards to food.

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  10. Thought you might be interested to see this (if you didn't catch it live this morning on the Today Show). I have so many thoughts and so little time to organize them, but at least wanted to share the link.
    http://www.hulu.com/watch/94715/nbc-today-show-is-%E2%80%98fat-acceptance%E2%80%99-a-cop-out#http%3A%2F%2Fwww.hulu.com%2Ffeed%2Frecent%2Fvideos%3Frd%3D0

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  11. I completely agree, although I might add that America seems to have a love-affair with unhealthiness in general, judging from the prevalence of anorexia, bulimia, and other eating disorders. Too fat, too skinny, anything but healthy. It's really a shame.

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